Dealing with a paranoid stalker aka: narcissist

Let me start with stating everyone has the emotion of paranoia to some degree or another. Both healthy and unhealthy. I will be discussing today when the level in you or someone in your circle crosses boundaries in one’s life and stalks you also know. As spying. Whether they are paid (contracted to do so) or it’s just them being insecure from loss of control over their own life and this emotion (paranoia) gives them the illusion of control by invading your life.

Somewhere along these peoples journey they were hurt to the core. This ability to speak out or even understand or heal or know what was occurring was out of their control. Whether they were a young child or an adolescent even an adult but let’s continue. This loss of control altered the heathy pathways to trust others. It was fragmented. It was never healed. So, when this shift from a healthy neuron transmission to the unhealthy path insecurity, doubt, mistrust, fear etc… set its course in these folks lives. Many times, this goes undetected. They come in or are in your social circle like your friend. Sometimes they are apparent in their intentions. Covert versus overt. Covert is the narcissist that gains your trust while seething underneath their skin waiting for the moment to destroy you. The overt is the bad breakup and they go nuts from loss of control and stalk their ex. These are just two examples.

Let’s discuss the covert one. As the overt simply doesn’t hide their stalking and anger.

The wolf is sheep’s clothing is the covert. But, when someone understands their hidden agenda - they lose their covert power. Their narrative is over. They lost their diabolical bondage over their prey.

Here are some symptoms is stalkers in your life and you may be unaware. The friend that says nice things and in the same breath tosses absolute insult I’ve remakes to you. Meant to confuse the person erode their sense of self worth and alter their perception of their reality. This is like cooking food in the slow cooker. It’s gradual. Yet usually undetected by their victim. Their target. Their prey.

They will say things woven in a believable story about some private conversation you and someone else had but they will weave it into a story about something in their own life. For one those stores are false. Two they are harboring a control emotion of mockery knowing you are clueless and trusting and buy the story or fall for it.

Start paying attention to their tell tales. Write them down. Take your power back from them. They don’t see they are doing anything wrong hence the narcissist mindset. In a nutshell they are jealous of you and as the saying goes misery loves company. Keep yourself and your mind in a higher mindset. Be aware of the devils snare and tactics and go on with your life. They are irrelevant in your personal evolution. Needed to make you see but irrelevant once you see.

Stay strong minded that’s what the devil is after.